5 good sentences to say to friends and family after a death
Words of condolence and good sentences can seem so inadequate when witnessing the passing of a friend or loved one. There doesn’t seem to be enough sentiment to capture and appropriately respond to grief. But, sometimes, just a friend’s presence can help support individuals through bereavement.
What to Say – Good Sentences That Convey Grief
Offering the right words of condolence is tricky because everything feels like a cliche. In such cases, there are good sentences to offer, with genuine care. Good sentences include, “I am so sad to hear about your loss,” or, “I am thinking of you and your family.” Comforting words during a time of grief can also be personalized. For example: “Susan lived every moment as if it were her last. She’ll always be with us in spirit”. And, finally, consider focusing on the grieving party by saying, “I know this is a difficult time, but I’m here for you,” or even offering a, “Please let me know what you need and I’ll come to see you at any time.”
Manners at a Funeral
Yes, there is such a thing as funeral etiquette. The finer points might vary based on culture but, by and large, words of condolence can go a long way in expressing solidarity with the grieving individual. Sometimes, there may be a collective fund set up that funeral attendees can contribute to as a token of kindness and care. Dress code should be observed and every attendee should take the time to use those good sentences in person and in conversation with the individual or family facing loss. A funeral or wake is about honoring the memory of the deceased.
Sometimes, the family or friends of the person who has passed2 may be overcome with emotion or be unable to continue in the middle of a funeral procession. It is not out of place for others to respond and to support, either physically or emotionally, the grieving party. This is a moment of vulnerability, and those who are bereaved can feel more safe and secure with a community around them.